The Naughty Jar: Our Couples-Building Sexy Game of the Week

Make a Sexy Naughty Jar for You and Your Spouse

Making a naughty jar is a fun and simple way to keep things cute and sexy with your spouse.

Similar to a "cursing jar" (where you deposit a set sum of money each time someone uses foul language), the goal of a "naughty jar" is to fill the jar every time you or your partner do something deemed naughty or dirty. Once the jar is full or a period of time has elapsed, you empty the jar and use it to fund something sexy just for the two of you.

Find a mason jar or a suitable cup. Leave it someplace visible in your bedroom.

With your spouse, make up fun rules on what constitutes a "naughty activity" and what the offender must contribute to the naughty jar for each infraction. You can make some worse than others depending on how naughty the action is. Examples of a "naughty activity" include:

• Having a dirty thought about your partner when they're not around
• Pleasuring yourself to the thought of your partner without them knowing
• Having sex together
• A certain position or dirty sex move
• The partner who orgasms first has to make a contribution
• Not fulfilling a sexy dare
• Losing a sexy game

Set a time period to empty out the naughty jar, usually once a year like Valentine's day. If your birthdays are far enough apart, you and your spouse can cash out the jar to put towards a sexy birthday gift.

 

With your spouse, set a goal for the money saved up in the jar. Some ideas include:

• You put the money towards a couples' sex toy of your choice
• You save up for a sexy night out for the two of you
• You split the money and surprise each other with a sexy gift within a week's time (a sex toy, game, lingerie)

In-between those cash-out periods, use the jar to communicate with your partner. What were some of the memories associated with those naughty deeds you have each done? How much money is in the jar and what will you spend it on? If the savings are going towards a toy, take the time to browse an online adult toy website together; discuss what toys would be fun options and why.



Optional: It is up to you if you want to leave the jar as-is or decorate it. Leaving it as-is makes it less inconspicuous; someone who walks into your bedroom will assume it's merely a change jar or savings jar. Decorating it with lace, sexy ribbons or wild patterns makes it more fun. Some couples have stuffed a pair of sexy underwear at the bottom of the jar. There is nothing wrong with having the jar reflect your personal style!

Fun Thoughts: You can use a naughty jar as a gift for a bachelorette party or wedding shower. Add a card with the "naughty" rules and decorate the jar for the lucky recipient and their future spouse.