Oral Presentation

Does Oral Sex Still Belong in a Married Relationship?

Marriage is often seen as the deathbed of oral sex. Statistics show that married couples will perform much less oral sex than single or dating couples, for multiple reasons. Oral still has its place in a healthy sex life, so here are some tips on how to keep it a functional option for you and your spouse:

 

DON'T: Ask for or expect it

Most people surveyed feel like being asked or having it expected for oral sex puts unnecessary pressure on them to do the deed, let alone motivate themselves to seem like they enjoy it. On the flip side, some partners could also see it as doing a favour and then expect the other to reciprocate with something else later.

 

DO: Read the signs

In the mood for giving? Well receiving oral sex is not always a slam-dunk (despite what your favorite adult movies have taught you). Not everyone is ready to have their partner spring out the blue and get ready to chow down downtown after coming home from a long day at work. Best tip? Look for signs that show that your partner is frisky and up for it. Start with a kiss and then slowly move down while kissing through the torso towards the genital area. If they seem into it and haven't stopped you by then, you're good to go.

DON'T: Worry about making it romantic

There's nothing really romantic about giving your partner's genitals mouth-to-mouth resuscitation. So please don't creep out your spouse by trying to make the mood romantic or thinking you need to make eye contact with loving eyes while your head is between their legs. Oral is was it is and although it's awesome, it doesn't really top anyone's charts for being romantic. We recommend that oral is best enjoyed with eyes closed and focusing on the sensation, both for the giver as well as the receiver.

DO: Be careful for your health

In a recent study, oral (throat / tongue / mouth) cancer rates have jumped 61% since 2011, especially in men with the direct link being made to the HPV virus and oral sex. Be sure to keep up-to-date with proper health followups including getting the HPV vaccine regardless of your gender if it is recommended by your medical professional.

DO: Use toppings

Let's be honest - no matter what your take on oral sex is, the taste left in your mouth does not necessarily make anyone's top ten list of gastronomic pleasures for either sexes. Easy way to enhance your taste buds is to serve up your spouse as dessert by using whipped cream, chocolate syrup or any gooey or sweet topping of you choice.

DO: Have a go in the shower

Showers are the ultimate place for giving oral. It's easy to have your partner washed and fresh, clean-up is a breeze and the running water just helps everything move along.


DO: Maintain proper grooming habits

Nothing is worse than having to stop oral sex to pick pubic hair off your tongue or from your teeth. If you want to keep a welcome mat out in case your partner decides to visit your front door, make sure you do proper grooming to any hair down there and keep all the moving parts clean, washed and hygienic.

 

DON'T: Use the 69 position

The often over-rated "69" oral sex position hardly ever works in real life. Unless you're perfectly matched in height and proportions to your spouse, one of you will cramp up. Even if you do match, it is almost impossible to both finish at the same time meaning one of you will be left with a mess in your mouth and your partner's junk in your face while they half-heartedly pretend to still be as into it while trying to finish you off as fast as possible.

-BSYNH

 

Question of the Day: Please Help me Take Awesome Boudoir Photos!!!

One of our most popular articles this year was about how to do sexy DIY boudoir photoshoot. While going with a reputable professional is always a good idea for this type of photography, many women (and a few men too!) cannot do so for financial or personal reasons. And if you have a decent camera and up for the task, why not try?

So in response to the comments and various email questions, we see some of you wanted to know what you could do if you've tried to take some photos of your own (or with a non-professional friend) and you're disappointed by the results? Well, don't give up! Boudoir photography is a great way to feel good about yourself, it's downright sexy and a great way to spice things up with your spouse. Luckily, our good friend and photography enthusiast Marie-Anne is here with her tips and tricks of the trade!

-BSYNH

Hello friends!

Taking boudoir photos should be a fun, exciting and a sexy experience for you - everyone is sexy in their own way no matter what your height, measurements or body type - it's just a matter of finding the right conditions for the camera to see that too! OK, so maybe not everyone has the body type of the girl in the photo below, but that's not a reason why you can't be the sexy star of a photoshoot and produce some pictures that will set your lucky spouse's heart aflutter! The trick is to find what poses and camera shots work for you. Here are some of my tips and tricks that should help you to be happier with your experience ... and your results!

DON'T: Stress out!!! It's not just about taking pictures - the whole process should be fun!

Don't just think of this is a photoshoot: soooo many people get nervous about going in front of the camera in various states of undress that it distracts them form all the fun up front! Yes, the camera clicks are an important part of this but that is actually a small part of the whole "boudoir star" experience! Have fun in the weeks leading up to the day by trying on and buying sexy clothes, jewelry and lingerie. Think about what side of you do you want to show to the camera? Fun? Flirty? Naughty? What themes, poses or props should you use to achieve this - think about and see what works for you.

Finally, pamper yourself as well! Get your nails and hair done or even hit the spa the morning of the photoshoot. Also, keep thinking about what your spouse will think when they see the photos and what they will think of you!

DO: Wear stockings and / or heels

Ha-Ha "bare feet are for the beach" says the original article on here ... and that is so true! There is a reason why most boudoir photos show thigh-high stockings and heels. To the camera, stockings add definition and are a great way to make your legs look slimmer; large-width stay-up bands will make your thighs seem smaller as they cut them in half. Heels lengthen your leg and draw the eye, giving an overall slimming effect to your rock-star gams. These are two easy wardrobe tricks that flatter you on camera and just makes you look even sexier as well!

DO: Online research

Look online for ideas about what to wear and poses. Pay attention to the details such as the angle of the torso to the camera, the tilt angle of the head, arm / leg positions and lighting conditions or shadows. See what you like!

DON'T: Think you have to match what you see on Pinterest!

As per the above "DO" tip, the goal of looking at photos online is to get ideas, not look like the girl in the photo! You are you and you will look great your way!

DO: Play with lighting

Feeling camera shy and don't want to expose it all? You can do a lot by using backlighting (silhouette) or spot-lighting (shadow) to show off part of your sexy curves or highlight a specific feature. Playing with different coloured lights can give fun effects too!

 

DO: Take close-ups

If you feel you don't have the perfect body for taking head-to-toe shots, take more defined shots of some of your best (or your spouse's favorite) features. You'll feel more comfortable and sexy, you'll also have an easier time finding a pose that works and the results are usually pretty amazing so you'll be much happier!

DON'T: Photoshop

Digital enhancements are common in magazines and the media. At most you can use computer photo software as a way to "post-process" photographs (crop, go from colour to black/white) but try to avoid enhancing yourself in the images. The end results usually are better by just playing with the things I'm mentioning in this article (wardrobe, camera angles, lighting, focus) and if you do it right you won't need digital magic to make yourself look sexy!

DO: Use the sitting pose to your advantage

Don't discount the seated pose if you feel shy about how certain body parts look on camera. A low bench will put your legs and thighs up higher when seated, easily coving the lower tummy area if you don't want to show it. Leaning forward while seated when paired with the right bra will make you easily go up by two cup sizes on camera. When seated, arms and hands can be positioned almost anywhere to look sexy and cover or draw attention as desired on the body. In my opinion, regardless of whether you're trying to cover up or go cover girl, this pose isn't used often enough - it's a sexy look for almost everyone!

DO: Use Mirrors

Use mirrors to double-up and show off your best assets! It's two great views for the price of one in the same camera shot. If you got it, you should flaunt it - twice!

 

DO: Play with the camera focus

If you have the right camera equipment, play with the focus in your shots for artistic effects or to show parts of your body more subtly in the shot. Focusing on near objects while you are mostly spread in the background helps tone down any parts of your body that you may be shy about showing front and center in the shot. But your poor spouse will be squinting at the photo trying to see more!

DON'T: Think you have to be naked!

You don't need to be nude or in scant lingerie to look sexy! Yes, boudoir photography sessions are typically underwear photoshoots by definition, but there are plenty of ways to look sexy while still being somewhat covered up. For example: wearing things like a sexy long coat and nothing else, putting on your spouse's dress shirt or donning a sports jersey. Want to score bonus points? Get the jersey photo of you autographed by their favorite player and give it as a gift!

 

 

 

I hope these tips will be helpful for you. Good luck and most importantly have fun being sexy for the camera! You are beautiful!

-MA