Newbie? How To Make a Pornstar-level Sex Tape

Want to Share? The Essentials to Making, Sharing and Enjoying an Awesome Sex Tape

We spoke in our previous article about the rebirth of the sex tape in the age of social media and the surprising shift towards more mainstream adult sites. For couples that get the thrill out of being filmed for others to see, we have some tips from our resident undercover industry insider "Lana" to get you started easily, safely and maximizing your fun.

First, choose a reputable site to upload and understand their terms of use

 

Before getting started, research what site you would like to use to "air" your movie. Be sure to read all terms and conditions and make all the necessary registration steps. There may be important information on what is and not allowed and what advantages or rights you have over your content.

 

Lana's opinion is "it's important to shop around and find the right fit for you. Some things that certain sites may impose on you might put you off." Here's what to look for:

 

1) Research: Be sure to use a site that is reputable and will not bombard you with ads and/or force you to install malware-ridden plugins to perform simple tasks such as uploads. Avoid sites that ask for too much personal information and ask to store credit card numbers for suspicious reasons. Also there are enough good quality free sites so there is no need to pay to create a basic membership.

 

2) Ease of use: Check that you can remove your content quickly if so desired. You can even  test out with a sample, non-compromising video first and see how easy it is to upload, publish and then delete.

 

3)  Look for perks: a site like PornHub.com (warning NSFW!!) meets the first two criteria and also pays you a commission of their ad revenue for views of your video. Sure, you get pennies at first and the first payout only happens at $100, but cash is cash and not bad for investing in a free account.

 

 

 

 

You need to plan out the filming basics in advance

 

Before you start filming, you will need to think about a few things first.

 

"Where to film is one of the most important choices to make. You will need a place that has great lighting, avoiding shadows. You may need to bring in extra lamps. You will need to choose the best spot where you will be able to perform the acts you want to show off on camera.

 

You will also need to think about where the camera goes, and if you don't want people to recognize your house in the background, a basic level of sanitation to the background is needed to change the look such as hiding personal items, hanging different curtains, or bringing in props."

Pamper and primp yourself, have fun looking the part

"Being on camera allows an escape, it's a chance to play and look like a different version of your usual self and have fun with it". This is definitely true as appearing in front of the lens gives you the chance (dare we say excuse?) to play with your appearance and experiment with your look. How often do you or your spouse go to a higher level of intentional detailing and primping just to have sex? Probably not a lot. The premise of getting dolled up for a sex tape opens the opportunity to do this and have a whole lot of fun in the process. Not only will you look the part, but do it right and you'll feel unbelievable attractive as well too.

"Don't discount spending time on your skin, hair or the use of makeup: even a basic DIY online tutorial can help make you look wild and sexy like never before. I can say it's definitely a must in the business and the trick to looking and feeling confident and sexy when performing."

 

Take some time to do basic scripting / dress rehearsals

 

While you can go with just live action recording of a sex session, a fantasy or fictional 'storyline' is what turns your boring voyeur sex tape in a full-fledged porno quality production.

"Ok, you don't need to write your movie lines and rehearse but discuss as a minimum a basic timechart and so-called plot idea with your partner, You need to what the premise is and in what sequence you both want things to unfold" says Lana. "A good amateur sex tape / adult video lasts at least 5 minutes and never goes longer than 10. You will have to end with either an ejaculation or a strong, loud orgasm. It's tradition and what someone watching your video will expect to 'end' the story. But besides that it's up to your imagination, just don't do too much talking and don't take too long to get into the action and showing some skin. You'll lose viewers after thirty seconds if things aren't sexy and interesting. People aren't there watching it for the storytelling and character development. Have fun with it!"

 

Part of that fun is acting out the scenes while the camera is rolling. It's good to talk to your partner about what you want to do to make sure things go smoothly and if you're alone, make breaks to be able to change the camera angles.

 

"Yes, you can go with just raw sex action, it's easiest. The one advantage to coming up with a fictional porn-style premise is you can assume a role, a character. Your pornstar alter-ego allows you to do things with your partner that you wouldn't normally do in real life. You can be rougher, innocent or downright nasty. Have fun dressing up and talking the part. Go wild with things you would never wear, say or do with your partner, now is the time. Be bad. Be good. Be what you want to be. It's hot and it opens the door to exciting sex exploration with them."

 

 

 

Set your "studio" up before filming

 

Lana quickly explains that it's hard to film everything in one continuous shot, and in any case it can be boring to watch when you have only one camera angle.

 

"If you're using a tripod, you will need to find at least two places in the room to setup the camera and move it in between 'scenes'. One setup should be zoomed out for action shots of the both of you, the bed, etc and you will need at least one for filming the action up close in a comfortable position (we're talking mouth, nipples and genitals). Although it might seem awkward to stop and start, once you edit the shots together with even the most basic video editing software, the change in camera angle and zoom makes the video more watchable" 

 

 

Choose a nudity level you're both comfortable with

 

"Nudity and the amount of time your face is on camera is up to you" explains Lana. "Couples that are more open and public will go completely naked and won't care if they are recognizable. Part of the fun in being naked is starting off clothed and getting undressed on camera."

 

Luckily there are options for those that don't want to be in their birthday suit or are afraid of getting recognized. "Couples that want to be more discreet or are embarrassed of being discovered have ways to get around it too. The video is short enough that you can easily change your appearance by using different clothing, wigs, masks, aggressive makeup techniques, temporary tattoos or donning fetish gear. I recommend to anyone who doesn't want to be recognized to play out a light kink scene and invest in fitted outfits and masks that cover up your distinguishable features. It's hot to dress up and you will be pretty much unrecognizable. It is actually not that uncommon to see these types of videos posted so you'll fit right in."

Have fun filming your movie

"Once you're ready to go, the most important thing is to have fun - I cannot express how important this is" exclaims Lana.

Being on camera and loving it is the essential part of being the pornstar. "It will show on the screen if you're not having fun. You will appear awkward and your facial expressions will seem off. Don't talk too much (a common symptom of nervousness) but be sure to make the right amount of noise when banging it out doing oral. You will have to be loud so it sounds good on camera. Just go with what feels natural and let it out vocally, there is no need to play it up, especially the climax at the end. Just let the feeling drive you and let it come out."


There is homework to do before you upload

Lana gives some tips reminding you that there is work to be done when you are essentially the star, cameraperson, director and producer of your little short video.

"Edit the video in a way that keeps the action moving. When the camera is fixed, you need to rely on the video editing to make your movie look more dynamic. You should avoid static, zoomed out scenes where the thrusting or whatever is happening is only a small part of the shot. There should be enough changes between zoomed-out shots and close-ups, between showing the man and the woman."

"Oh yeah and make sure you're sober when uploading. It's OK to be tipsy when filming if it's more fun for you (no judgement from me), but you definitely want to have all your wits with you when uploading to the internet to avoid doing something stupid".

 

The last tips from Lana before you delve into the world of cyberporn stardom are pretty straightforward: "Give your amateur movie a good title; nothing cheesy but be descriptive with the right keywords so it accurately describes your video in a fun and sexy way. It should be uploaded into the right category as well. Finally, be sure to pick a good thumbnail(s) as the movie clip preview for the website; the image is pretty much what will get people to choose to watch your video."

 

One final warning from Lana before we go: "Don't be surprised if this becomes the first of many videos. Newbie couples get surprised by how fun it is to make an amateur sex video and what a rush it is to see yourself on a big name site then seeing the hits pile up as people view what you created. Have fun watching it with your partner and checking out other videos for curiosity and new ideas."  

 

 

 

-BSYNH

-LL

 

 

 

Forget the Sex Tape: Five Better Uses For Video in The Bedroom

A DIY sex tape is just the start. Try these ideas if you want to have fun while the camera is rolling.

 

A hot topic these past years has been the subject of sex tapes: whether it be unauthorized leaks of various high-profile stars, a way to reward YouTube followers , revenge porn or romcom movies on the subject (thanks for the laughs Cameron Diaz) it seems almost everyone out their is busy filming themselves doing it.

 

We've brought in our industry expert / insider who goes undercover from her real life by the name of Lana to get her advice on what is really going on in the studios errrr bedrooms of the nation.

"Well, for starters sex tapes have now become known as the ultimate selfie" she states. "A whole new generation is growing up and dating in the Snapchat age, where first base is now a bra pic. The perceptions of what is acceptable to do in front of the camera and what to share publicly for this new wave that is becoming of age is completely different than all those who came before them."

 

And right she is. Sex on video (i.e. porn) has exploded thanks to the internet, but there has a been a shift of videotaped sexual acts being reserved only for sites and communities of perverts in the seedy underbelly of the dark web and has become more mainstream. A recent survey showed that one in three women know watch online porn in a regular fashion, and stats from sites such as PornHub confirm that at least 26% of its global viewers are in fact women, with Brazil reaching the heights of 35%.

 

"Let's face it, there is an excitement to being able to watch yourself in a private, intimate act - and it's just as fun to know you're being recorded by the all-seeing-eye while performing it. It's hot." Lana continues with solid advice for current married couples: "Most married couples today dated and hit the peak of their sexual exploration in the time before Instagram and selfies. What's better than looking at what's out there and embracing modern technology to rekindle and relaunch your passion for each other? It's always god to find new ways to flirt and explore with your partner, if you've been married for many years"  

So what exactly can we prescribe as a video aphrodisiac? Have a look at some of the ideas below. 

Make a sexumentary with your partner

OK, so not everyone is ready to hit the screen as a moaning, groaning, porn star. Yes, sex tapes can be awkward to film and sometimes awkward to watch. The first question is to ask yourself what you want to do with the sex tape? Would you actually watch it and keep it? If you realize you'd want to start small with something a bit more watchable, make a sexumentary (sex documentary) with your partner. Basically, interview each other in a provocative way on the most personal and taboo subjects you can think of - it will be sexy, fun and can get your motor revving while maybe even having a few laughs. It's something you can hang onto and won't be too shy to go back and look at years later.

You can film it together sitting or lying down, or taking turns being behind the camera, or split up with some questions on a note card and record each part separately then put it together at the end to watch ensemble. It can be as explicit as you want it to be, and no need to be naked - you can be dressed chill or at various stages of provocative undress.

 

Some popular topics of conversation or "interview questions" are:

• What was the best / favorite time you both had sex and why?
• Best vacation sex and where?
• Dirtiest thing you both ever did
• Your spouse's best move on you
• Any hidden talents your spouse doesn't know about yet?
• Favorite body parts and what to do with them
• Do your best impression of your orgasm face (or your partner's)
• Sex bloopers: remember any times things didn't go exactly as planned for you two?

"A sexumentary isn't just sexy and fun while filming it, it's also a great souvenir of some of the sexy memories that will never make it into the family photo album. You're not going to be young forever; so without going full porno you can use video as a way to keep those personal and intimate memories alive."

  

 

Film your boudoir photoshoot

 

Are you planning on taking a boudoir photoshoot at some point? Check with your photographer if they can have an assistant film the experience for you (or worst case allow you to bring a camera-savvy best friend along).

 

Thanks to the boudoir shoot setup, lighting, poses and makeup will be perfect for filming and you can generate a sharp "behind the scenes" video. If your boudoir photoshoot is a gift for your spouse, this makes for a perfect bonus feature to show along with your pictures. Not only will you look smoking hot, you can have the cameraperson ask you questions or just talk on your own during the filming about your spouse, what look you're trying to achieve with your poses and what you hope their reaction will be.

 

Your spouse getting to watch a video of you smouldering in various lingerie poses? I think you'll have two thumbs up.   

Join the fun on adult sites

Wait, did you just suggest to married couples to join an "adult" ... i.e. porn ... site?

 

"Hold on, porn sites have changed a lot since the old days. While yes they're still definitely about explicit content, amateur communities are popping up everywhere and driving better sites where they are much cleaner and have become more mainstream compared to even just 10 years ago"

 

Yes, good point - definitely the landscape has changed. Sites like PornHub have succeeded by adopting an open, free environment that remains safe and respectful for amateurs. Loosely based on a YouTube style video upload and search philosophy, PornHub will pay registered (for free) amateurs a portion of ad revenue in $100 increments when their videos are viewed online.

 

The company itself is anything but shady: it runs open and transparently and has embarked on socially responsible endeavours such as donating to breast cancer, helping the environment by planting trees and recently offering to help shovel out Boston from a major snow storm. "It is a far cry from the sites run from off-continent servers that bombard you with pop-up windows, lewd content and ask non-stop for credit card numbers"

The surge in use by married couples on newer-style adult sites as both viewers and contributors of content is surprising, but not uncommon. PornHub received 23 billion worldwide visits (yes billion) in just 2016 alone, racking up a total of  4.6 billion (yes, again billion) hours of porn viewed on screens across the globe. Overall, people have uploaded and watched over 92 billion videos. Popular is an understatement.

"With the things being posted on Snapchat, Instagram and other social media sites these days, people's perceptions have changed towards taking part in uploading sex tapes or amateur porn as they have already put so much of themselves out there. By the time the new generation has entered the mature stages of adulthood, chances are they've already shared intimate videos or photos with someone for viewing pleasure. Yes, part of it is narcissism, but we can see that attitudes are changing and there is something hot, exciting and - dare I say- normal about being more open and public with nudity and what goes on in your sex life.

Even if you are shy, there is nothing preventing you from joining in by hiding your true identity in these videos and concealing your account with an online alter-ego. It is easy to make yourself unrecognizable, but you and your spouse will always know and have this sexy secret that is just a search engine click away. Couples looking to add excitement are drawn to that."

 

Lana is right in that statistics show that it is definitely something that more couples are crossing off their so-called sex bucket list and continues to trend upwards in popularity.

 

"It comes back to what I mentioned before: why are you and your spouse interested in pulling out the video camera in the first place? If you're OK just filming and deleting right after or keeping it private, that's fine. But for most people who setup the camera they want the satisfaction and excitement that comes from knowing that other people will be watching them, provided they are not discovered and embarrassed. That is what these sites now offer and why they are booming in popularity."

Explore Cybersex

Most couples in their thirties or later have missed the social window of sexting during dating phases and are still cybersex virgins with their partner.

"There is enough technology out there now to allow you to be intimate your spouse anytime, anywhere." It has become so prolific, and quite frankly, awesome, that psychologists are becoming alarmed by the high rate of cybersex addiction.

"Cybersex is great and so easy because of its accessibility" continues Lana "addiction isn't a problem if you're remaining monogamous; if your spouse is into cyber, let them do it with you and see how fun it is. The advantage is really that unlike physical sex, you can do it literally anywhere at any time, all that limits it are your inhibitions."

Whether you're on a business trip across the continent or coinciding your lunch breaks for a virtual quickie, there are many fun ways to use the video chat services already built into your phone, tablet or computer for cybersex. If you're up for taking it one step further, products have come out that allow remote vibrator control via smartphone apps so you can make your partner walk the walk while you talk the talk from the other side of the globe. 

Give the camera to a professional ... and we mean that type of professional

Are you pulling in someone to help spice things up or make foreplay a bit more interesting? What can make a soft threesome even hotter? Bring in a video camera. While an escort, stripper or your local professional dominatrix will not want to appear on camera, they are usually more than OK with filming you and your spouse. If you're looking at making it a night to remember, why not actually have the video to prove it?

 

"One of the hottest things I heard done was a fellow BDSM worker who was asked by a couple to play and film them in the dungeon she worked at. She 'forced' the couple to do dirty sex acts on each other for her viewing pleasure while she videotaped them and played with herself. How hot must it have been to have the lens on you while being made to do all these naughty things by someone else? And how hot must it be to be able to play back that video afterwards and hear her voice again while seeing yourselves acting out a real-life porn situation? " 

 

 

 

 

Here's hoping you can make good use of that video camera (may want to be careful to not mix up your home movies with your kid's baseball finals though).

 

Camera ready ... annnnnd ... action!

 

 

-BSYNH

 

-LL