Beginners to power play and BDSM often wonder what goes on once one partner is handcuffed, tied and at the other's mercy. There are certain things that you can do to your partner that help emphasize the dominant/submissive dynamic and can give both parties a fulfilling experience. Here is our list of the top five things to do a partner that is at your mercy:
Discipline them if they've been naughty
One of the hottest things of a power exchange is being disciplined by the dominant partner. Keep it simple: things like giving a gentle spanking while telling the partner about how they've been "naughty" (dressing up too sexy, teasing too much, withholding sex) is a great way to start. If this is something that works for the both of you, you can look into getting accessories such as the more hard-core paddles or floggers.
Use tantalizing sensations
Drive your partner crazy by getting them stimulated with things like tickling by feathers, running cold ice cubes on sensitive areas or dripping hot wax on the back, chest or pelvis from a candle. Don't bother focusing on the genitals or private parts; areas like the ribs, the neck and back of the knee are super sensitive and will do just fine. The fact the erogenous zones in the genitals are not being stimulated during this will drive them to the brink.
Use a sex toy on them
If you have a sex toy available, you can experiment with things such as nipple clamps, chastity devices or use standard sex toys in an unconventional way (ask them to give a dildo or vibrator a blowjob for your viewing pleasure - great for both men and women). You can also use sex toys to further restrict their senses, such as a blindfold or ball gag, which heightens the sensations in the other areas.
Serve them up as your dessert
Cover select body parts of your partner with whipped cream or melted chocolate, and take your time slowly licking it off. Besides the obvious areas, make small paths over areas of their torso, buttocks and inner thighs, leading you from one erogenous area to the other. Waiting for you to finish up while knowing exactly what will happen will drive your partner to the brink of begging you for release; so be sure to save the best parts for last. Avoid areas like the ribs or other parts that may ticklish, or you may ruin the mood.
Give them slow, tantric oral sex
Topping our list was oral sex (no surprise there) - but this is anything but a quickie. Have fun dragging out the onset of climax on them by giving periods of oral, then pull away to introduce a pause in the action an do one of the items listed above. See how long you can keep them in limbo; the end climax will all the more worth it ... and practice makes perfect. :0)
-BSYNH
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