It's interesting seeing the various personal dynamics between married couples; the biggest challenge faced by most is how to keep things fresh and interesting as physical attraction waivers over time. One of the easiest ways is a classic one: flirting. Here's why and how:
It puts you back on your spouse's romance radar.
Your spouse may see you as a good wife or husband, a great parent to your children, a responsible adult who takes care of the house, a hard worker. Yet it's important to remind them of what you do for them in terms of romance and physical attraction. An intimate touch or impromptu kiss when they least expect it will remind them on a regular basis.
It gives your relationship physical intimacy besides sex.
In many couples, the only time physical intimacy is shown is in the lead-up to sex. While this is the norm, it is also important to show your partner physical attraction just for the sake of it and not only when you want to get it on. Sneak a few playful squeezes or other non-innocent contact when your spouse is least expecting it to make the point that you're into them and not just only when it's time for sex.
It will boost confidence for both of you.
A flirty, unsolicited compliment out of the blue ("I like that look on you - careful or I may not be able to control myself next time we're alone") can make your spouse's day. The boost in confidence from knowing you're acknowledging the physical attraction they generate in you will not only make them feel great, it will make them more likely to return the favour to you as well.
It's good to pull your spouse out of mundane.
A good flirt when least expected breaks the routine of the day. Making eye contact with a flirty gesture while clearing the dinner table or pulling your spouse aside for a passionate kiss while doing dishes is all it takes to make an ordinary task and daily routine pass by all the more quickly.
It's a fun and sexy way to continue "dating" your partner.
One thing that I always suggest to married couples is to never stop dating. Sure, life can be hectic to do formal dates as you once did, but flirting as you were doing when dating is a great way to keep the fire burning in a relationship. One thing I tell couples is to act on something new: what can you do today if you would be dating your spouse now that you never did? For example, chances are you probably didn't have smartphones when you were dating - but if you did, what would you have done? Maybe send racy texts during the day? Ask them to Snapchat you some personal pictures when you're out of town on that business trip? Applying new modern ways of flirting to a more experienced relationship is a great way to keep things fresh.
Happy flirting everyone ;)
-BSNYH
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