Why Married Sex Should be the Best Sex of Your Life

You should have seen the look on their faces. They sat there, stunned, staring back at me. There was a moment of quiet reflection and then the woman glanced at her husband, then looked at me and spoke up in a small voice "No, I guess not"

I see it all too often. And I understand it. I'm married to, just like they were. I get it. I've heard it before (many times) and I've experienced it before myself. Life gets in the way. There are bills. Housework. The job. The kids. The families, the friends and the obligations that come with. But the fact of the matter is married sex should be the best sex of your life.

I've never understood why the general conception is that marriage is where good sex goes to die. How could that be? Marriage is, by definition, one of the strongest bonds that two individuals can form. There is no way in my mind that single or dating people should be having better sex than a married couple. A marriage has several advantages that should make it the perfect environment for awesome sex.

Here are the top three reasons why married sex should be the best sex:

The connection:

Being married means having a tried, tested and true connection with your partner, sometimes developed over years. This connection has formed as you have both stood together against adversity, challenges and whatever else life has tossed your way. You count on them for support and love, and there are few things more reliable than your spouse. This is someone who loves you very much, has been there for you in the past, and will be there for you in the future. Who could possibly be better to have a solid sex relationship with?

 

 



The communication:

The key to a marriage is communication. Most married couples talk openly about their plans, goals, fears and concerns. The same should apply to their sex life. For some reason, many couples think talking about sex with their partner is taboo, in bad taste or are afraid to be judged. Do you know when your partner is in "the mood"? Do you know your partners' biggest sexual fantasy? Do they know yours? Why not? Talking about sex with your partner is a sure-fire way to improve your sexual relationship.

The comfort level:

Your marriage partner is the perfect one to explore with, to grow and discover new things because you are comfortable with each other. I remember once counseling a couple that (finding out only after some extensive one-on-one deep digging) was so afraid of ruining their sex life because of hidden desires they did not want to share or try with each other. But if you cannot get together with your spouse and try or explore these desires, who else could you possibly feel more comfortable with?

So the next time you hear that marriage is where good sex goes to die, think about the "3 C's" above and remember: sex will only die in marriage if you allow it to die.

-BSYNH